Sarasota PI Kayla Sharrow recently went undercover to see just what happens when a young and very pretty blonde female puts an ad on www.plentyoffish.com, following is her story and advice, she had over 700 requests for a date. “The agenda of a dating website is to connect to your ‘soul mate’ on a wider scale, and in a bigger faster way. Being single in the dating world is enough of a shark tank, and then you put yourself in a position to be judged on a wider scale, and in a bigger faster way. The first ten minutes of making my ‘profile’ on PLENTYOFFISH.COM or POF.COM, I had over seventy-five messages. What do you do with that? Where do you begin? What do you say? How do you know these men aren’t creeps, married, killers, or even stalkers?”
“And well, you don’t. The advice I give for women on a dating site is being careful! I’ve had men start off a conversation with private questions about certain body parts of mine. I never knew what I was going to get in each message that I clicked on to read exactly what I was going to get. I have gone on dates with a few men who turned out to be a little different in person than I had anticipated, even though I had talked to them for weeks. For a young female college student, I really had to be careful. You hear all the time about women going missing, and the cops have no leads, because she was talking to different people on a dating website. I knew that I had to be careful and protect myself, because at the end of the day you really don’t know whom you are meeting up with.”
“I never let my date pick me up; I always met them in a public place or at the restaurant. That way I could ensure that I wouldn’t get stuck in a place or situation that I couldn’t get out of. I always told someone where I was going and with whom, so if something happened someone knew where to start looking. I never left the house without my phone being completely charged, and I bought a can of pepper spray for my key chain. Small details can be a single woman’s life or death. You ultimately never know the intentions of a person you met on the Internet, and in a crazy world like this something could happen at any moment. I know I couldn’t control their actions, but I knew the actions I could take to help prevent me from being another statistic in a newspaper. All women should learn how to protect themselves in the dating world, and make better decisions before the date ever occurs to help prevent a bad situation. I definitely would not do it again. The stress and risks are too high to be able to enjoy what the dating website should be, instead of what it is.”
The pictures you were sent were most likely phony lifted from other websites, not like the real pics used by Sarasota PI Kayla Sharrow, her photo above. The profiles were fake as well, carefully crafted to match your interests. In addition to losing your money to someone who had no intention of ever visiting you, you may also have unknowingly taken part in a money laundering scheme by cashing phony checks and sending the money overseas and by shipping stolen merchandise (the forwarded package).
Dangerous Side Of Online Dating Sometimes The Man Is Married Or Turns Out To Be A Crazy Stalker Says Private Detectives Bill Warner and Kayla Sharrow. PANAMA CITY BEACH, FLORIDA // With as many as 40 million single Americans using online dating services or web-networking sites such as MySpace to look for love, it would seem that there has never been an easier time to find a soulmate online. But experts, law enforcement officials and private investigators warn that the world of internet romance is fraught with peril, ranging from liars to sexual predators and even murderers, who hide their motives behind seemingly innocuous virtual identities. The numbers are worrisome – and horror stories abound. In February, MySpace was forced to cancel 90,000 accounts on its site that authorities revealed were linked to registered sex offenders. It was a fraction of the 130 million users of the site, but a significant percentage of the more than one million registered sex offenders in the United States.
“It’s shameful because it lulls women into a false sense of security,” said Mr Warner. “You get young naive women or the over-50 year olds who are recently divorced, they are often excited about meeting a new man and they make easy prey.” In some instances, the first date ends in violence. Last October, for example, police in Minnesota charged a 39-year-old man with raping a woman he met through the internet, after he slipped drugs into her drink that caused her to pass out. In other cases, the motive is financial. In many cases, Mr Warner said he would discover that men had joined a online dating site using a false name, a prepaid, throwaway cell phone and a phoney e-mail address from free services such as Yahoo or Hotmail. “There are a lot of people out there who get jazzed up by disguising themselves,” he said, adding that nearly 100 per cent of his cases involved women being victimised by men.